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Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Happy Thanksgiving

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NOTE: Blogger is having trouble, and I wanted to come back and enable comments at this post, but editing posts is not working for the moment. So I am posting this entire post again. I'll delete the other one (with comments disabled, which I later thought better of) when Blogger fixes this problem.


All the days gather forward
to this.

We survived another year.

We were held close.
We lost, we gained.

What winds and storms battered
and tattered and made us turn our heads,
- and oh - see something new?

There was good reading - those essays and short stories!
Movies moved and disturbed us.

There were visits and visitations.
Good-byes,
setbacks, illness and pain.
Jobs lost.
There were shocking funerals!
There was emptiness, disappointment and longing.
Frustration, loneliness, confusion and fear.

And there were weddings and engagements!
Births and hatchings and
new friends!
Surprising raises and sales of houses.

As things got worse all around,
writers turned words to the heart,
artists applied paint and clay outward to a cause of love,
musicians supported the hungry and desperate,
playing tim-tim-tim-tee-tim.

Friends and strangers alike
paid more attention and helped more.
People paused longer in the hall at the office to talk.
Strangers passed
cash forward in the checkout line at the store.

I feel all this
in my
heart
mind
and soul
in health, compassion,
deeper sadness and broader joy.

All the days gather forward
to this
Gratitude.

Happy Thanksgiving.

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Happy Thanksgiving

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All the days gather forward
to this.

We survived another year.

We were held close.
We lost, we gained.

What winds and storms battered
and tattered and made us turn our heads,
- and oh - see something new?

There was good reading - those essays and short stories!
Movies moved and disturbed us.

There were visits and visitations.
Good-byes,
setbacks, illness and pain.
Jobs lost.
There were shocking funerals!
There was emptiness, disappointment and longing.
Frustration, loneliness, confusion and fear.

And there were weddings and engagements!
Births and hatchings and
new friends!
Surprising raises and sales of houses.

As things got worse all around,
writers turned words to the heart,
artists applied paint and clay outward to a cause of love,
musicians supported the hungry and desperate,
playing tim-tim-tim-tee-tim.

Friends and strangers alike
paid more attention and helped more.
People paused longer in the hall at the office to talk.
Strangers passed
cash forward in the checkout line at the store.

I feel all this
in my
heart
mind
and soul
in health, compassion,
deeper sadness and broader joy.

All the days gather forward
to this
Gratitude.

Happy Thanksgiving.
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Saturday, November 21, 2009

in appreciation of men

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Dissing men is popular, fashionable, humorous and politically correct. It has been so these past four or five decades since women's lib in the sixties. White men. Black men. Rich white men. Rich white male politicians. Rich white radiodiots (say it: ray-dee-yoh-dee-yachts = rightwing radical ranters). Cock-a-doodle-doos.
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Put all that aside for a bit, please.



Most of my blog friends are women. If you get into the techno-blogs and political blogs, and other categories, you’ll see more men. But in the genre of Here is My Life and You’re Welcome to It – it’s a lot of us Hens. I like that the men we hang out with here are cool about that.





So here is a list of random things I appreciate about men. A feminatzi could have a heyday with me. That’s ok. This is not a PC list. It's not exhaustive - I keep thinking of more. I'll add them to comments and you can too. I'm not saying women can't do some of the things I list. It’s just one hen's point of view. Argue all you want. You should.





  • In the 34 years I have known my husband, he has never walked through a door ahead of me.
  • When I needed my car's headlight replaced, it wasn’t me who did it. And it wasn’t a woman.
  • Since Blogland, the men I’ve met here have been men who like women, are not threatened by women's strength and intelligence, and they encourage our discoveries, expression and power.
  • Aside from some exceptional women (Queen Vishpla, biblical Deborah, the Amazons, Thyra Queen of Denmark, Joan of Arc, other warrior women who fought disguised as men, then in the 20th century in gradually increasing numbers and acceptance like the 12,000 women who fought in the Israeli war of independence in 1948, and of course the thousands of women who serve now) – as I say, aside from them, for the most part, down through the history of war - men may have started them – but other men had to fight them - protecting their families, tribes and nations as warriors through the battles. If I were a man of age during a draft, that would suck.
  • I liked it when I was studying in London when I was 19 and I went to see Jimmy Stewart in the play "Harvey" alone, and when I came out of the theater after dark a tall skinny fellow student named Cal was waiting outside to walk me back to the dorm. He must have heard me say I was going, though I didn't remember that. No, he didn't put any moves on me. He just wanted me safe.
  • Men like sports, so I don't have to. They can watch it, talk about it, and I can do something I'd rather do, like blog, and not feel guilty.
  • I like that they have upper body strength. I can't carry 50-lb. water softener bags two at a time to the basement.
  • Strong, thick eyebrows, especially black mixed with gray. That's a weird word - say it a few times. eyebrows. حاجب. 眉毛. obrva. obočí . øjenbryn . sobrancelha. kaş . Think Walter Cronkite.
  • They like mowing the lawn, especially if they're on a green motorized riding toy that happens to have synchronized blades.
  • They make me think harder when we have conversations. Don does it every day. And like when my father-in-law and I argue about the Bible, or my son asks me why I didn't like "No Country for Old Men," they don't let me just make a statement without supporting evidence. The men I've met in Blogland have stretched my mind beyond what I thought possible. I didn't know how much I didn't know. Men have helped me sharpen my mind.
  • They don't cry a lot. They hardly cry at all. We wouldn't want too many people in the house crying. But they know when it's a good time to cry, because they look over at you to see if you're crying at certain touching moments in movies.
  • Rumi. Philip Seymour Hoffman. Carl Jung. Jesus. Leonard Cohen. Wendell Berry. Vincent van Gogh. James Taylor. Ed Ingraham. John Lindus. Martin Luther King, Jr. Bill Murray. Russell Brand. Jimmie Elsie. David Gray. Edgar Degas. Benjamin Franklin. Bennett Hart. M.A. Rauf. GI Gurdjieff. Luciano Pavarotti. Barack Obama. Walt Whitman. Rainer Maria Rilke. Mahatma Gandhi. Henry David Thoreau. Loring Wirbel. Charles Dickens. Leonardo da Vinci. Albert Einstein. Nelson Mandela. Peter Olson. Noam Chomsky. Barry. Montag. Honore de Balzac. I like lists. But this list is very bad because it doesn't include all the men I want to include but don't want to bore you, or all the ones I'll think of later. So. Please close your eyes and think of men and what you appreciate. Nice, isn't it? If you're a man, also think about yourself and feel how good you are.
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Wednesday, November 18, 2009

early bird

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5:30am

It's Monday, and you slept in an hour because you have no student appointments today. The only thing calling you to the university is answering emails. You shower so your hair can start air drying and in your long heavy gray winter robe you pour your first cup of coffee, add vanilla soy and a blip of half and half. Stir with a long thin sturdy plastic spoon from Ireland because plastic is quieter than steel against the ceramic, important when someone else is sleeping.

You add a log to the wood stove and open the vent. It will take a few minutes for the orange embers to burst into flame and be visible through the creosote dimmed door. You hear a tick-tick-ticking just before the log ignites. It won't be light outside for another hour and a half, you see two or three stars shimmering between clouds. There is just one dim table lamp on. You wonder when you first began to like getting up so early, feeling robbed if it is already light when you awake. Your mother who got up early too would by now have already prayed on her knees for every world country's leader by name in her morning routine. With the smell of coffee and wood fire in your nostrils, you plop into your chilly red leather chair, covering your lap with a fleece blanket, and your laptop.

6:30am

You pour your second cup of coffee, and a cup for Don who is now up. Where did that hour go? Oh yes - besides gmail, a little quiet music, Facebook and blog comments, you also read some news stories, especially the one about hating Obama - that if you do you are likely to be white. Thank goodness your mother and father taught you not to hate blacks. The family room is toasty.

7:30am

Don has left for school, and it's light now - though gray and wintry, a light breeze bobbing the yellow tipped bamboo. This makes you think of President Obama again, because he's in China today (or is it tomorrow? he was just in Japan, when does he sleep?), where there is apparently deep cultural prejudice against blacks. After an essay by Ann Claycomb* about feeling like a terrible mother, you open the latest digital New Yorker - more palatable than the hard copy sitting on the kitchen table because you can read it without holding anything but your coffee cup. (You would not be able to read it online if you didn't have that subscribed copy on the table though. Ironic.) You used to think that people who got up early were the ultimate non-lazy people - industrious and worm-catching. You've changed your mind, and you realize your mother has flown up somewhere into the stratosphere of your esteem.

You read the article on the Michelin restaurant rating system from start to finish as hungrily as if you were eating a meal at a 3-star restaurant in Paris, which you've done thrice, unbelievably. The Michelin restaurant inspectors are anonymous and work long days, not paid too well, but wouldn't that be a great job, except for those long forms you have to complete after each meal, taking an hour. You know you are nowhere close to high society, you live on a farm with rustic outbuildings and chickens running in the yard, you and your husband have modest salaries in your thank-goodness jobs, and yet you have been served the food of the gods - once at Taillevent and twice at Le Grand Véfour. You contemplate blogging about those experiences and think better of it. Too much work to fire up the Paris blog again with old photos to process, and so many beggars in Mumbai and mine victims in Kabul with one leg or arm lurking in the vestibule. That would take more energy, better writing and less conscience than you feel capable of today.

9:30 am

You are still on your arse, with a warm machine bringing heat and information from around the globe onto your lap. Half-way through the Michelin article you have seven additional Internet tabs open: one on force feeding ducks for foie gras, the second the Michelin site Famously Anonymous, the third a list of 138 of Jean-Georges Vongerichten's recipes (if you were industrious you could attack those the way Julie did in "Julia & Julie"), the fourth - wikipedia.org open to the word Kairos after Montag mentioned it at his blog (the man must read incessantly) - meaning among other things "the time when God acts," the fifth - Facebook where you had to post the salon.com article you read about Obama hatred from the rightwingnuts (not that anyone will read it), the sixth a Huffington Post piece about the irony of Sarah Palin's new book title Going Rogue, and the seventh is your work email because you just decided you're going to stay home by the fire and answer emails here today. This is after you already spent two perfectly good weekend days at home with nowhere to go.

You convince yourself that because you want to write about what you take in, and this morning's worms were too plump, tasty and plentiful to leave for another morning, you need a whole day just to digest them. And that deserves 3 stars.

* This post was inspired by the form Ann Claycomb used in her piece at brevity titled WQED, Channel 13: Programming Guide. I was so taken with her form, that I imitated it. Thanks to Montag whose comment triggered the conviction that I should rightfully link it here - not that he was guilting me!
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